Why can't I manage my emotions

Control your emotions! 3 tips that are guaranteed to help you!

This is how you control your emotions so that your feelings don't control you

As you improve your emotional regulation skills, you will become stronger spiritually.

Control emotions? What to do with these emotions

Yes, those emotions - the ones that come out of the blue and take over us like we're obsessed.

This leads us to do or say things that we know we will regret, but we just cannot help ourselves.

If you don't know what I'm talking about, don't read any further. However, if this sounds familiar to you, I would advise you to read on.

In my post you will learn the following:

  1. What you can do with strong emotions
  2. How to use meditation to separate the emotions from the story
  3. Three ways with which you can control your emotions and moods immediately

Emotions are powerful . Your mood determines how much you interact with people, how much money you spend, how you deal with challenges, and how you spend your time.

As you gain control of your emotions, you will become stronger spiritually.

Fortunately, everyone can regulate their emotions better. As with any other skill, managing your emotions requires practice and dedication.

You can calmly experience your unpleasant emotions, just make sure you don't get stuck in them.

Managing your feelings is not the same as suppressing them. If you ignore your grief or pretend you wouldn't feel any pain, those emotions won't go away.

Indeed, untreated emotional wounds will worsen over time. And it is very likely that if you repress your emotions, you will lead to unhealthy coping strategies like too much television, eating or drinking, etc.

1. So how can I Control emotions or what should i do with these emotions?

I would like to offer two ways and suggestions for this, on the one hand let's take a look at what emotions are and how they arise and on the other hand I would like to give you 3 tips that can help you to get a grip on the emotional package in everyday life.

Basically, your emotions are neutral, that is, they are neither good nor bad. It is your mind that judges them, it is your mind that says some are okay and some are not.

It is your mind that makes you feel guilty or wrongwhen you have certain emotions, but the emotions themselves are never wrong.

So no need to reject them or suppress them or be ashamed of them.

Emotions are simply different expressions of energy and they work on the same principle that the weather follows. There are stormy and sometimes calm days.

Sometimes it's dark and rainy and sometimes it's light and sunny. So life is. You can complain and say it shouldn't be rainy, it should be sunny, but who cares? Don't be sure about the weather.

Such thoughts only make you unhappy and rob you of your peace, that's all. And then you miss the joys of the rain and the secrets of the seasons.

This makes your life narrow and limitedr, so not very pleasant.

That's the way it is with emotions - they are just energy sometimes stormy, sometimes sunny. And like all forms of energy, they are constantly changing.

Seen in this way, emotions are not harmful, the problem only arises when you are identified with them and believe that you or someone else are the cause. The identification happens through your mind.

So you have to stop using your mind to control emotions.

For example, when you are sad, your mind always has a reason to tell its story - "I am sad because my friend prefers someone else".

And then we get swallowed up by the story, all of the drama that's going on in our head.

Well, it may be a fact that your boyfriend made another girlfriend. And it can be a fact that you are sad as a result. That's the reality.

Once you acknowledge this reality, the choice is yours.

You can either get lost in the story: what is wrong with you, how can he do this to you, how can you go on without him, etc. etc.

You can now chew this number for days, weeks, months - and we all know exactly how to do it.

What can help you get out of the dillema of your mind? For me there is only one good remedy and that is. "Meditation and Mindfulness".

There are of course other options and I'll show you them in a moment, but meditation and mindfulness are one of the most effective tools.

2. Meditation gives us another alternative.

With the help of meditation, you can separate the emotion from the story that the mind has created around it.

If you watch your mind closely, you will find that it is chewing on the drama incessantly, like it's high and drunk. You can just watch him without giving him too much energy.

Instead, you can turn your attention to the physical sensation of the emotion itself.

The first step is to acknowledge that "There is sadness".

Note that this is different from "I'm sad". And then let the sadness be there, as energy, without judging or discarding it.

After all, it is only one energy and energy is always neutral.

It's not about indulging in the emotion and revitalizing the victim story.

Instead, it is about exploring with an open, non-judgmental heart:

What is the energy of that emotion, sadness?What is the actual physical feeling of it?

Beware of pejorative labeling of your mind - for example, the mind might classify the sensation as "heavy or stupid," which is a judgment.

Instead, try to find a worthless word, e.g. B. deep or quiet or passive.

Feel more and more - what is the feeling of this energy? And where do I feel it in my body? Move your attention from your mind to your body.

You will find that sadness actually has depth and even sweetness. Make your own discovery.

You will find that all different emotions have certain energetic qualities. For example, anger can be a passion, a fire.

You can purify an entire house with the energy of anger if you don't distract yourself from that energy. Don't distract yourself from that energy by worrying about why you are angry.

And the magic is that if you can really allow all the different energies to float through your life, provoked by some situation, then you are no longer their slave. On the contrary, you are the master.

You can see them come and go, enjoy and use their different energies in a creative way, and get all the richer for it.

And they disappear - by allowing them to be there. When they appear, you mustn't push them away, you have to greet them and watch them, then after a while you will notice:

"The energy has turned into something else".

One minute you cried just because there were tears and the body had to throw them away and the next minute you were laughing.

Just to be clear - using the energies of your emotions in a creative way doesn't mean letting go of them on someone else.

It's definitely a thought thing, you're trapped again in the reason, the reason why the emotion is there.

Maybe someone else did something that triggered the emotions, but it's your emotional response, your energy, not theirs.

The anger, or whatever, arose in you as your reaction. Acknowledge that the anger has arisen within you and that no one is responsible for it except yourself. the other is never the reason, just the trigger. If you recognize and acknowledge this, then you can use this energy.

When you blame someone, you are missing the point and denying your own energy, let alone getting stuck in an old routine that has no way out.

Instead, try saying to the other person: "Anger is popping up inside of me right now, and it's my anger, my energy, so I have to run or dance or scream or hit some pillows.

Or sit alone and watch it. Or all of the above. Then I can answer you.

Take responsibility for this"your reaction" is also gives you the opportunity to see what idea or your belief in your subconscious caused this reaction, this energy.

What part of your ego felt hurt or lost or fearful or insecure or guilty? What old wound or fear has the other unwittingly caused in you?

It is important that you acknowledge your feelings while realizing that your feelings do not need to control you.

If you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, just lie back on the other side and your day will be saved. You have the opportunity to calm your emotions. If you are angry, you can calm down and if you are sad you can comfort yourself.

3. However, there are three other ways to better control your mood:

1. Name your feelings

Before you can change how you feel, you need to realize what you are experiencing. Are you nervous? Do you feel disappointed? Are you sad?

Keep in mind that anger sometimes masks emotions that feel vulnerable - such as shame or embarrassment. So pay close attention to what is really going on inside you.

Give your emotions a name. Remember, you will immediately feel a variety of emotions - such as fearful, frustrated, and impatient.

Describing how you feel can decrease the feeling of emotion. It also helps you understand exactly how these feelings are likely to affect your decisions.

2. Renew your thoughts

Your emotions affect the way you perceive events. If you feel anxious and you get an email from the boss saying that he wants to see you right away, you will imagine that it will be something uncomfortable.

You may even think that you will be fired.

However, if you are feeling happy and you get the same email, your first thought might be that you will be promoted or congratulated on a job well done.

Your emotional filter is like glasses through which you look at this world and it is important that you take a step back and look at your thoughts on it.

When you discover that your mind is using your emotions to drive you to think:

Tomorrow's party is a complete waste of time. Nobody will talk to me and I will look like an idiot "then remember," it's up to you how you will experience this party.

Just come up with new thoughts such as the following:

I will introduce myself to new people and be interested in getting to know them. "

Sometimes the easiest way to find a different perspective is to take a step back and ask yourself:

"What would I say to a friend who has this problem?"

Answering this question takes some emotion out of the equation so you can think more rationally.

When dealing with negative things, you may need to change the channel in your brain. Quick physical activity, such as taking a walk or cleaning your desk, can help you stop rumination.

3. Do things that make you happy

If you're in a bad mood, then you're probably stuck in yours bad mood program and do the usual activities that make sure that your condition is self-sustaining.

You isolate yourself, leaf through your phone or jump from one app to another, complain to people around you, grumble, etc.

These are just a few of your typical behavioral disorders that you are comfortable with.

But these things will hold you tight. You have to take positive action if you want to feel better.

You could start thinking about things that you do when you feel happy.

Do these things when you are in a bad mood and you will feel better.

Here are some examples of mood enhancers:

  • Call a friend to discuss something pleasant (don't complain further).
  • To go for a walk.
  • Meditate for a few minutes.
  • Listen to good music
  • Dance a little
  • Make music
  • times

Creativity is a good key to dealing with emotions!

At this point a personal tip from me!

There is still an important part in youwho can help you to free yourself from strong emotions. This part is one of the most important in my life. It is the inner child. You should definitely deal with it.

If you are curious and want to know more about it, then download my free e-book below.

It is important that you continue to practice improving your emotional regulation skills.


Dealing with your emotions is difficult at times. And there will likely be a certain emotion - like anger - that will take hold of you at times.

But the more time and attention you spend regulating your emotions, the stronger you will become mentally. You will gain confidence in your ability to deal with discomfort while also knowing that you can make healthy decisions that can change your mood.

ultimately, all feelings and emotions are our own property. they come out of us and we have to learn to deal with them.

It used to be difficult for me because I always thought that it was the other's fault how I felt. Today I know that this is exactly not the case and that it has caused the greatest pain in me.

Learning to take responsibility for our feelings is the best way to achieve more inner and outer peace.

Sounds interesting?

Try it.

What can you lose besides your misery?

So that's it for me on this topic and I hope that you have found one or the other suggestion for yourself in this post.

I thank you for giving me your time. I am grateful that I have been able to support many people over the past 25 years to find their way to more inner and outer peace and more joy in life and happiness.

And now a little request to you!

It would be nice if you shared my post. I took a lot of time for it and I hope that many people can read it too.

You can also tell me about your experience on the subject in the comments section below.

Greetings from the heart


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