What's the strangest way you talk

Understand dementia

If more and more gaps arise in the memory, the ability to think also suffers. As a result, people with dementia are less and less able to use their intellect to organize or evaluate the information and impressions flowing into them. Therefore, it becomes more and more difficult for the sick to make decisions or solve problems through logical inferences. For example, if someone with dementia burns their tongue, the conclusion that the tea was too hot may no longer be possible. It can therefore be that he continues to drink despite the pain.

The patient no longer understands logical explanations, nor can he answer questions about the reasons for his behavior or his expressions of feeling. Therefore it is not expedient to get involved in quarrels or discussions with people suffering from dementia and to try to convince the person with logical arguments. If an 80-year-old man is looking for his mother, the objection that she must be over 100 years old if the person concerned no longer remembers his own age fizzles out.

My wife used to be a nurse. Since she had dementia, she often thinks in the evening or at night that she has to go to the hospital to work. When I try to prevent her from going out, she gets very angry quickly. There's no point in telling her that she has been retired for many years or that it is time to sleep. But when I tell her that her manager has called and she is on call, she sits down by the phone and waits. Most of the time she forgets her "duty" and I can put her to bed.

The person suffering from dementia often suffers from things that they can no longer understand. When visitors come by, the fear arises that they might take away trusted relatives, rustling leaves indicate dangerous burglars, a cracking heating pipe turns into rifle shots. The sick person is increasingly overwhelmed by reality - simple objects such as a toothbrush or fork lose their meaning, uncomplicated everyday activities can no longer be carried out.

Loss of understanding - tips for relatives

  • Do not try to use logical arguments to convince the sick person of your point of view.

  • Avoid arguments or discussions by agreeing with them or by distracting them.

  • Don't expect him to be able to explain his actions

  • Eliminate the causes of his worries and misinterpretations such as cracking heating pipes.

  • If this is not possible, try to calm him down on the emotional level, for example with arguments such as: "I understand that the howling of the wind scares you, but I take care that nothing happens to us."

  • Look for causes yourself if the sick person is worried or frightened for no apparent reason.