Why does nobody respect me

To be taken seriously: 5 simple steps to more respect

Do you have something important to say, something to criticize, an idea? Well. Then you now have two problems: In order to bring the topic to the table, you must first have the courage to express ideas or criticism. And you have to be taken seriously. There is a difference between talking and being heard. You only have the chance to change something if the other person takes you and your concerns seriously. Young people and quiet characters in particular have problems with this. We will show you how you will be taken seriously in the future and how you can give your voice more weight ...

➠ Content: This is what awaits you

➠ Content: This is what awaits you

To be taken seriously, you have to trust yourself

Talking to your boss or colleague about something that you don't think is going so well takes courage. This is a real challenge for quite a few employees. In particular, career starters who have just graduated from university or have completed their training often do not yet have the self-confidence to address problems. Or they simply lack the necessary support and reputation in the company. Once you've earned your spurs, many automatically tend to listen.

Even if it is often the case: With the attitude, many people take the chance to be taken seriously right from the start. You automatically appear less confident. What they have to say becomes a vague option: it can be done, but it is not particularly relevant. Too bad. A disaster could be avoided at an early stage or the success of the entire team could be increased ... "It always takes someone brave to speak the truth," as the saying goes.

Sure, you too can be wrong. You should always keep this in mind. But the attitude should definitely be: “I have something important to say! (Otherwise I wouldn't say it.) "Anyone who wants to be taken seriously should therefore meet three requirements:

  • Be realistic.
    Don't assume the worst. Nobody is going to rip your head off just because you have a different opinion or make a critical suggestion. You get involved. That is always better than walking in silence. In the worst case scenario, you will listen "No!". But your career didn't die immediately.
  • Prepare yourself.
    The point is important: you should be sure of your cause. If you want to be taken seriously over the long term (!), You should only make suggestions that are well-founded. A lot of half-baked things will at some point mutate you into a stupid talker. So be thorough and self-critical of your own ideas in advance. Better to say less, but more clever.
  • Believe in yourself.
    The enemy of success is often the blockage in the head. Above all in their own: That doesn't help anyway! What influence do I have ?! Those who think this way limit their own contribution and censor themselves. Sometimes it's a lazy excuse to avoid potential conflict. But if you want to be taken seriously, you must first take yourself seriously.

It is only heard when something is said. That sounds like a rush. Nevertheless, it takes a lot of effort to implement this simple insight every time. Dare anyway. In the long term you can only gain: reputation, respect, reputation.

Who is being taken less seriously?

Some people immediately exude an aura of authority. They brush aside doubts. When they talk, everything goes silent. And in the end they always prevail. Class. It is now known from psychology that there are some factors that reinforce or weaken “being taken seriously”. Unfortunately, we have a few of them in the cradle and can hardly be changed. So someone is automatically taken less seriously who ...

  • is particularly small.
    Physical size has nothing to do with intelligence, competence or emotional maturity. Yet tall people immediately exude more authority than little ones. They intimidate, look down while everyone else looks up to them.
  • has a high voice.
    A high-pitched, squeaky voice often speaks to the child schema. We inevitably associate it with an immature personality. Suggestions from the corner are treated accordingly carefully.
  • is new to a group.
    Trust is the beginning of everything. In order to be taken seriously, we need fundamental credibility. But it has to be built up and earned first. As a result, it is usually difficult at work as a newcomer to be heard in an existing team. The only thing that helps here is patience.

Finally being taken seriously: With these 5 tips it works

Do you want your courage to finally bear fruit and not be rewarded with the fact that the person you are talking to only half-heartedly listens to you? You also don't want someone to give you the feeling that they are interested in your opinion (which he or she doesn't care as soon as you leave the room)? In short: You finally want to be taken seriously - and really? Then we now have a few solid and proven tips for you that you - of course - take seriously, because: "What else are you reading this far ???"

1. Believe in yourself

It was already mentioned above: The first step is to believe in yourself and to respect yourself. If you don't already, who should do it? Realize that your opinion or expertise is just as important as that of others. Accordingly, you should immediately parry and comment on any disrespect to you. Show: I take myself seriously!

2. Convince through expertise

As soon as you criticize something constructively (!) Or make a suggestion for improvement, please underline this with well-founded facts, specialist knowledge, relevant experience. Real competence creates respect. Only when the person you are talking to is convinced that you know what you are talking about will he be open to suggestions.

3. Bring solutions

Anyone can list problems and complain about them. If you want to be taken seriously, you also need the right proposed solutions for the problems. This is the only way to make it clear to a skeptical listener that you have dealt extensively with the topic, that you have a legitimate objection, but that you do not just want to make a name for yourself with it. Therefore, always make specific suggestions and analyze possible consequences. That proves the forward thinking thinker.

4. Pay attention to your body language

Our bodies talk even when the mouth is silent. Hunched shoulders, hardly any eye contact, a hunched posture - that doesn't convince anyone. If you want to radiate seriousness and substance, you not only need the right clothing, but also professional body language: stand upright, straight shoulders, fixed gaze, smile ... And take your hands out of your trouser pockets!

5. Find advocates

The best arguments are of little use if you are alone. It is the principle of borrowed competence: Find advocates and supporters in advance - especially those who are already being taken seriously. This increases your persuasiveness enormously and immediately gives more weight to what is said.

And last but not least: give yourself time. It means “taken seriously become". It is a process. You don't decide when to take you seriously. The others do. That cannot be forced. Take courage! Consideration and perseverance have given weight to some concerns (in the literal sense of the word).

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