A toxic relationship can work

How do you recognize a toxic relationship?

At first they were still on cloud nine. The relationship seemed perfect, the partner was loving. But in toxic relationships, this picture can change dramatically. "Toxic relationships start beautifully," explains relationship expert Susanne Kraft. "This phase is called" love bombing ". You are literally bombarded with love." According to the expert, however, this is not real love with toxic partners, but advertising measures or advertising attempts that last the first few months and sometimes up to a year. "Then the situation changes and the partner shows his true colors. He becomes more and more demanding, more and more threatening and more and more contentious," says the expert.

Warning signs of a toxic relationship

"Toxic relationships can be recognized by the fact that they are not good at all, but can even hurt a lot and make you mentally and physically ill," explains Susanne Kraft. According to the relationship expert, a toxic partner reacts conspicuously often with criticism, blame and disparagement. Such partners often have a great need for dominance, power, and control.

According to Kraft, women are predominantly affected. "This is because it is predominantly men who are toxic partners. 75 percent of all toxic partners are men," said Kraft. The respective partners are often so dependent on their toxic counterparts that it is difficult for them to break free. Sometimes even physical withdrawal symptoms are possible.

The struggle out of a toxic relationship

"Symptoms of emotional dependency and the fact that in such a relationship you often have to face a severe social retirement because you are ashamed in front of family, friends and colleagues make it difficult to free yourself from a toxic relationship," says Susanne Kraft . The expert therefore advises you to find yourself again, learn to perceive yourself again and also to appreciate yourself.

One should also turn to other people. This can be friends, family or a counseling center. "You should strive to work through the relationship in order to recognize what you need so that something like that doesn't happen again in the next relationship," says Susanne Kraft.

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