How can an autistic child behave properly

Is my child autistic?

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Children are very different and they also develop at different speeds. However, if the child has persistent difficulties in social situations, is not very empathetic and communicative and is inflexible, there may be more to it. Is my child autistic? What Exactly is an Autism Spectrum Disorder? What does that mean?

The autism spectrum

Parents ask themselves “Is my child autistic? “So it is first important to understand what exactly autism means. Autism or Autism Spectrum Disorders denote one profound developmental disorder in the brain. It is also important to understand that Autism is a spectrum. That is, there is different characteristicsthat are closely related. This is why autistic children, but also autistic adults, are sometimes very different, although they all move within this spectrum. So there is no such thing as “your one” autism, but rather a multitude of different manifestations and forms. This is why one speaks of autism spectrum disorders.

What all diagnoses that fall on the autism spectrum have in common is that they suffer to some degree Problems in social situations do you have Difficulty with communication and empathy have and that they have to some extent inflexible in their behavior and are therefore less able to accept changes. Often there is also specificInterestsin which those affected invest a lot of time, are particularly familiar with it and for which they have a special talent. Also the Perception processing It works differently for those affected and they experience a lot more intensely and unfiltered. How strong or weak these problems are, however, can be very different and vary widely. This means that the extent to which the life of the person affected is influenced by the disorder can also vary.

However, an autism spectrum disorder is only diagnosed if sufficient diagnostic criteria are fulfilled. Even if children have some symptoms, the question “Is my child autistic? “Cannot be answered directly and inevitably with yes.

Autism in children

To answer the question “Is my child autistic? “To be able to answer, it should now be about the first signs that could indicate an autism spectrum disorder in the child. Again, it should be remembered that not every child who exhibits one or some of the symptoms has an autism spectrum disorder directly. The following symptoms and signs are only first clues, for a possible autism spectrum disorder. As the signs and symptoms though vary greatly, this list is by no means to be regarded as conclusive or complete. It's just a first overview with common signs and symptoms.

Depending on which form is present from the autism spectrum, the first signs can be even with babies and toddlers to be established. In babies and toddlers, symptoms are mostly related to the fact that certain behaviors are absent. Affected young children interact little or not at all with their environment. They do not mimic facial expressions and behaviors of others, keep little eye contact, hardly point to objects they want to have, react little to voices or their own names, make few gestures and noises to get attention, do not play with other children and point also no interest in it.

The behavior of affected toddlers also differs from that of their peers. So employ affected children often intensely with certain objects, use this only in a certain way and only use it that way. You can too have a strong interest in unusual things and conduct activities many times repeated out. Besides, they are Routinesvery important and they react insecure when something changes in them. On too certain sensory stimuli these children can be particularly sensitive, for example to loud noises. It is also possible that affected toddlers do not “babble” and start late to coherently speak without just repeating.

The older the children get, the more diverse, but the autism symptoms also become more noticeable. On the one hand, these are shown in social situations. Affected children can be particularly awkward in building relationships and playing with others, they seem to have no interest in their people or show, they do not participate in group games, they appear absent and react little to someone speaking to them , they do not mimic others, they enjoy little or no physical contact, they only use toys in certain ways, they do not share their interests and successes with others, and they have difficulty talking about or understanding feelings.

All of this is usually shown in the language. Most of them have problems with that social aspect of language and therefore do not always understand what the other person means or wants (e.g. jokes or irony / sarcasm) or how they should react to them. Have some autistic children linguistic problems as well, speak late, changed or not at all.

As already described for the symptoms in toddler age, older children also have affected often problems with non-verbal communication. Gestures, body language and facial expressions may not be properly understood, interpreted and even implemented.

That too Need for routines and consistency has already been mentioned. This also shows up further and often intensified as autistic children get older. If there are changes in familiar processes, affected children can react violently. The same applies if a certain established order is mixed up.

It can also be a sign if the child is very intensely concerned with a certain area and learn everything. It can also include movements or actions that always executed one after the other will be signs.


Parents ask themselves “Is my child autistic? “, You should therefore her Observe the child as closely as possible. The signs listed are just a few of many and symptoms can vary widely. Autism consists of one spectrum, in which there are very different forms. If there is any suspicion, a Specialist who are dealing with Autism Spectrum Disorders. Indeed it may take several yearsuntil a diagnosis is made. On the one hand, this is due to the fact that some doctors do not recognize the symptoms or assign them to the autism spectrum and there is no further referral to an appropriate specialist. On the other hand, it can also be because hasty “labeling” should be avoided if it is not yet entirely clear whether it is actually a disorder from the autism spectrum. In any case, it is good if a corresponding diagnosis as early and as quickly as possible in order to give the child the appropriate support and thus encourage it.

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